In my ever so humble opinion, a man should only propose if he is absolutely certain that she will say yes. And a woman should never lead a man on.

Isn’t that a terrible video?!!!

Girls- I don’t pretend to know alot about you. I have a wife, a mother, a sister, and a few good female friends. What I know, I only know from observation!

Today I want to talk about being under pressure.

It has been said that men are like submarines- everything has it’s compartment, and we shut the door behind us. We only focus on one thing at a time. (this explains a LOT doesn’t it?!)  Life can be pretty easy for a dude. Work. Eat. Sleep. Repeat.  (are you feeling jealous yet?)

Girls, on the other hand, are like ~wide open fields~. Everything effects everything. Rarely is anything completely ‘over’. That’s why you are all such good multi-taskers.  But it is also why a lot of you are stressed out all the time.

Think about it- you are probably way too busy, and you know it!

Your education.

Your work.

Your friends.

Checking Facebook.

Your significant other.

Your walk with God.

Errands.

Phone calls.

Chores.

Duties.

Expectations.

Committments.

Family.

Problem is…if the pressure builds too much, you’ll explode.

Do you feel it? Maybe some of you do.

You need outlets. I’m not talking about yoga or stress pills or meditation…while those may all work in the short-term, they’re certainly “how-to’s” of a worldy sort, aren’t they?

You’re probably thinking- okay, so the answer must be Jesus right? EXACTLY! Well, sorta. Maybe. Ish.
No, God is not a stress ball. And no, the solution isn’t be more like a guy. The answer isn’t to read your Bible or pray the following prayer.

The Bible says to “throw your worries on Jesus, because He loves you.” His Word also says “don’t worry about ANYTHING- just pray about it. I will take care of you.”

Maybe it’s simply to go for a walk with Him. Talk out loud. He’s one guy who actually listens! Get out your anger, frustrations, bitterness, guilt, worry, stress, and even…your gossip. (gasp! is that allowed?!)

Take as long as you need.
Then listen. Be really quiet. Let the distractions fade away, and let Him speak love to you. If you haven’t listened in a long time, it might take a while to recognize His voice; but don’t give up. If you seek Him with all your heart, you will find Him. And in Him, you will find yourself.

And that, my girlie-friends, should do the trick.

Try it once. See what happens. If nothing happens, you can always just keep doing what you’re doing.

If you don’t learn to deal with the pressure, you’ll never have your best mind about you. You’ll never perform at your peak. You’ll never ‘be all that you could be.’

Of course, you can always keep trying the next thing. The newest, shiniest stress-reliever. But take one look at the generation of women ahead of us- it didn’t work out so hot.

If you can learn to deal with the pressure- it’s quite possible that you could become (-ahem-) ballsy enough to walk off a basketball court in front of 20,000 people because you know he’s not the one.

Or more importantly, that you could excel in your education. That you could advance in your career. That you could lead in your church or ministry. That you could run your own company. That you could guide and care for your family. That you could actually manage to love a boy forever. And that you could feel the smile of a Father who loves this daughter of His.

Don’t try to be like a boy. Live at a whole nutha level!

What do you think? Could this work? How can you deal with the pressure?

Jay

On a completely unrelated note, but has everything to do with future posts…what would be some suggestions, comments, quotes, verses, or encouragements that you would give to guys if you could do so anonymously?