I have really hard time with this post as I know so, so many women who have done all the suggested, above. They serve, they are humble, they are kind, sweet, gentle and strong women of God yet they have not found “him” and there is nothing they can to to make it just happen. Having been one of these women and having gone through all the angst of waiting and praying and longing for “Mr. Right” I think it’s fair to be frank about it and say “it sucks”. And it really does. It’s funny that the two things many women want from life, a husband, a child, are the two things they can’t make happen or even work for. Think about it. You can work towards a career, you can work towards getting fit but you sure can’t follow a program to find yourself husband, or have a baby. I had so many friends that would say to me “when you are ready you’ll meet him” and of course they were all happily married women, and had been since their early 20’s. I had one married friend that was gracious enough to not give me the spiritual BS and would just say “it sucks”. There is nothing we can do to change God’s timing and His timing is perfect but when you are walking that single, lonely path, longing for a man to share your life with, it sucks and it doesn’t help when you have “marrieds” telling you to devlop your character and spiritual growth. I mean this all in the nicest possible way, I’ve just lived it and know that most single women are not just hanging around, resting on their laurels, waiting for Prince Charming.

Awesome thoughts girls…thanks so much for taking the time to express them on here. I have a feeling they resonate with a bunch of others who might read this post. Poppy love, you are very right that I am married and do not fully understand what it is like to be single anymore. However I do remember in my very early 20s being single and going to a stag and doe for friends…and driving home alone crying and screaming in my car at God because I felt so confused, discouraged, and left behind because I did not have what my friends did. It really does suck. I think the point I was trying to make is that instead of expecting a guy to be perfect, we must work on ourselves as well. I was not trying to say that if we do X, X, and X, a husband will come running to us. I just wanted to shed light on the fact that many women do not bother dealing with their own character because they expect a guy to be the solution to their problems. I do have alot of single friends, some of them very content with where they are at, and others really wanting to be married. I am sorry if I implied in any way that being single is easy for everyone. Having lots of married friends, I can imagine, could be very hard.

J, thanks also for your input. And thanks for pointing out my contradiction..I think I phrased wrongly what I meant once again! What I meant by ‘becoming worthy of being someones wife or girlfriend’ is that sometimes I see girls chasing guy after guy after guy, expecting him to be their saviour..meanwhile they are lazy about their own lives and character growth (obviously that is not the case for you, which is great). I was mainly addressing these girls…suggesting to them that the type of guy they are seeking probably won’t be found in a night club (I mean maybe, you never know…)…but going out and fooling around in attempts to find ‘the one’ will not attract ‘the one.’ This post really was not intended as much for women like you who are content with they job and community and who really just can ‘wait around’ until the timing is right. It was intended for girls who expect perfection from a guy without being serious about becoming they best they can be themselves.
Michelle