This might be a hot topic and cause some serious controversy, and I am TOTALLY cool with that!

First question: Would it be acceptable if your boyfriend, husband, or father went to a strip club?

Is it a sin for a guy to go into a strip club?  The Bible says that lust is a sin, and I would agree.  A guy going into a strip club is unacceptable…and he is sinning.

Second question:  What if we switched the word “strip” for “dance”?

“Wait Jay, are you saying that going to a dance club is the same as going to a strip club?!!!”

No.  But is it really that different?  It’s a CRAZY place for temptation.  Most people who go clubbing go there to drink hard.  To flirt.  To draw attention to themselves.  To flaunt it very immorally.  (Quite possibly more than) a few go home with strangers.

I know this might sound weird- for the most part, I think that clubbing is filthy.  I’ve had this conversation with a few close friends- they wouldn’t marry a girl who was ‘a clubber.’  They couldn’t trust her.

“Again, how is that the same as a strip club?!  Let me explain:

Men are VERY visual.  I cannot explain this enough- we see SHADOWS and we stand at attention.  We see anything and we go crazy!  So strip clubs (very visual) are a great place to be if that’s what you’re looking for.  It fulfills that need (momentarily), it makes us feel good, and it’s commitment-free.  It’s all about us.

Women, as you know, are much more into the emotional connection, the need for attention, affection, and affirmation.  And much like how the strip club works for guys, dance clubs often do the same job for girls.  It’s all about them.  I know SO MANY girls who have started clubbing and have fallen away from God.

Am I saying that a girl going to club is a sin?  No.  But it certainly can be, and for 99% of the people who do go, IT IS.   Would Christ go with me to strip club?  No.  Would he go with you to a dance club?  It totally depends on you.

I beg of you- be honest.  Question your truest, deepest intentions for going.  But don’t stop there.  (I don’t know about you, but I can convince myself of anything.)  Ask your pastor, a few godly friends, and your mentor.  If they all agree that your intentions and actions are 100% pure,
keep clubbing.  Otherwise, do what’s right.  Be on guard against temptation.   Be the kind of girl that attracts the right kind of guy.  FLEE from temptation.  Be careful.

Have a great weekend girls, and know that you are loved.

Jay

Early next week I will introduce you to the first of three lovely ladies who will be contributing regularly to The Sex Rev.  I am excited to hear what you will be learning, discussing, and sharing to others.

Can I ask you for a favour?  Over the weekend, I’m going to be working on a sort of ‘manifesto’ for the Sex Rev.  I would love it if you would send me your thoughts on what should be included in a belief/vision/mission statement on guys, girls, sex, and God.