“Flirty girls are the worst.”

As a member of the male species, I can totally say this- no upstanding dude trusts a flirty girl. Maybe you know one, or maybe you are one:

You smile and/or wink and/or cuddle with pretty much every decent-looking boy.  Hugs are a little long.  You chat online and text constantly.  You’re always going out for coffee or dinner or a movie, with different guys, and you’re ‘just friends.’  Late night chats.  Heart-to-hearts.  Phone calls.  Flirting.  Whether you know it or not, there’s a very good chance that you are leading that poor guy on.

Can I give you a little piece of knowledge that’s worth it’s weight in gold?

If you flirt with every guy in the room, you’ll end up doing two things:

1. You will turn off every guy smart enough to realize that you’re just flirting with everyone.

2. You will attract every bonehead who is dumb enough to think that you’d actually settle down with him.

Here’s what it comes down to:

While you’d think that flirting with a lot of guys would increase your chances of getting a boyfriend, it actually decreases your chances of getting a GOOD one!!!

Dang.  There’s something to re-think about.

So what should you do instead?

Jay

Hi Girls!  I’m new to this whole blogging communications thing, so here’s what I need you to do:

Pretend that we are all curled up on the couch with mounds of blankets with steaming cups of tea. Cozied in for a deep sisterly heart-to-heart.

Identity…it’s something we all struggle with. We all want to know that we are loved and of high value. In my own life, I have found that often on that quest for identity, this comes from men in my life. Regardless of whether that was my Dad or the latest boy. Value from men has always been very important.

Here’s what God’s been hitting me with over and over again throughout this week:

It’s not about who I am…it’s about whose I am.

If people ask us who we are, it’s a mad dash for an answer…I’m a sister, friend, nanny, photographer, tea drinker, and the list goes on. We need to find answers that will qualify our value in the minds of those around us.

As soon as my identity quest becomes about WHOSE I am, then the answer becomes an overwhelmingly meaningful and simple answer of JESUS’. In this one simple answer I find value because there is nothing of more value than Jesus. My life is not my own, it was never meant to find its value in the words or actions of men. We have been bought with the death of a perfect savior. The maker of the entire Universe calls me his. He treasures and values every intricate detail of who he has created me to be. Only through him are we able to grasp this truth.

God has bought us, forgiven us, and furthermore He holds every road block of life in his hands. He is the beginning and the end. (Revelation 22:13) So what do you think girls? Where do we find our identity? What point of the journey are you at? I know that this truth isn’t yet my reality at every moment of every day. It’s a journey…a place I’m striving to reach. What about you?

Andrea