One of the things that drives me crazy, especially in Christian circles, is that there is an assumption that guys are the only ones who struggle with sexual temptation.  It is often assumed that women do not need to be preached at about masturbation, what they look at on the internet, what movies they watch, or what magazines they read.

I’d like you to answer some of these questions about yourself:

Do you watch movies or TV shows with graphic sex scenes?

Do you habitually masturbate to pleasure yourself sexually or as a means of resisting sexual involvement with others?

Do you read magazine articles entitled “Sex Tips” or “What a Man Wants in Bed” even though you are not married?

Does the music you listen to blatantly talk about sexual desires outside of marriage?

Do you go on websites that you wouldn’t want others to see you are visiting?

Do you dress/dance/act seductively? (be honest)

Are you sleeping with (or fantasizing about sleeping with) someone outside of marriage?

God designed us to be sexual beings.  But answering ‘yes’ to any of these questions demonstrates an area of vulnerability when it comes to purity.  If you were a soldier in a battlefield these would be holes in your armour, leaving you vulnerable and open to attack.  From a spiritual perspective, the longer you answer ‘yes’ to these questions, the more obvious to the enemy the holes in your armour become.

As my mother-in-law often says, obeying God always either protects us or provides for us.  I find this to be especially true when it comes to sexual purity.  Keeping sexual struggles a secret will rot you from the inside out, while confessing them to someone you trust and beginning a relationship of accountability will set you free.  Satan wants you to live in the dark, but God wants to fill every part of you with light and life.

Ladies, let’s stop sticking our heads in the sand and talk about what really matters.  My next post here at No Boys Allowed will talk about what the first step is to dealing with sexual sin.

Michelle